I know I’ve made posts but where have they gone?

A little over three and half years ago we didn’t know if you would be here with us today. I may complain that I need some quiet time and I know I shouldn’t because I am so thankful that you are here with us. You make me jump by sneaking up on me, you make my heart melt when you say mom I love you, or I missed you, you make me smile when I see you learning new things or sharing with your sisters.

I am so proud of you today on your frist day of Preschool. I wasn’t sure you were going to make it. The day before you were running a 102.6 temp and by this morning it was gone. The doc said you could go to school. The girls were excited to see you after school and ask you if you had fun. They kept saying how quite it was in the car without you. You said at school you went on a bear hunt, had recess outside, made a craft, and had snack. You were tired when you got home and I took your temp and your fever was back to 99.9.

We’ve had a great summer which included a lot of camping and swimming. A trip to Calamus, the Stuhr Museum, Indian Cave State Park, transplant reunion, and Spalding. You went to camp at the Racquet Club and had a blast.

You love jumping into the water on your own and love taking baths and putting your whole head under.

You talk about Christa’s baby a lot. Your dad made a comment the other day that made us all think. You and the baby will share some DNA. You have a lot of questions about God, your cat Grizzy dying and babies and where do they come from.

Last week we put a family computer in your bedroom and you are still excited about it. You like playing games on it. You love to play swordfighting on the WII resort and other games.

You like to play board games, paint, play-doh and ride your scooter and bike.

You love it when you get to go out and see if the tomatos are done in the garden.

You bring so much joy to our family!

As much as I don’t want to see my baby grow up I am happy for you. I am thankful for the many years of fun we’ve had and will have together. I love you bunches my little love bug!

The month of April always reminds me of the day Trey was activily placed on the transplant organ donation waiting list. That day brought tears knowing he was that sick. It was also a happy day knowing he was now activily on the list and had a chance for surviving but what if an organ did not become available.

Please consider being or organ donor if you already are not. Please share with others your intentions. Spread the word that organs are needed and that almost 18 people die a day waiting for a donated organ. Did you know that almost 6,700 people in the US alone die a day.

Thank you to all who are registered as organ donors and thank you to all families that have lost a loved one and whose organs were donated.

It looks as if we are moving right into summer. Truthfully I am ready for warm weather.

I missed a few months of posting. Just not enough time. Being a Girl Scout leader this year is taking a lot more time then I thought. I do enjoy it and I think the girls are having fun.

The 3rd week in February Trey was back in the hospital in Omaha. Since the Saturday before his Tuesday admit he had been complaining of tummy pain and he could hardly move. We ended up in the ER as Omaha suggested. They gave him an enema and xrays didn’t show anything. The enema moved very little. As instructed on Monday I took him to the museum to try to get him active. I knew it was serious when he would just cry and could not even bend over. His pediatrian didn’t like the feel of his tummy and decided incase there were blockage he should be sent to Omaha. Labs were good and they tried laxatives and everything. Nothing was working and he was in some serious pain that he couldn’t even sit up in bed. On late Wednesday he had a barium enema to help loosen things up. It worked and there were no signs of blockage. Why he was constipated is a mystery? He has never has constipation, in fact we have always fought the loose stools. We were happy to go home on Thursday. They took him off his iron medicine to see how he would do. When we got home he had a 102 fever. The fever went away the following Wednesday he had his teeth surgery.
The iron and all of his meds had ruined his teeth and they looked gray. The surgery went good and his teeth look great. We had some extra time post op because he was running a 102 fever. They got it come down some and were able to discharge us. As the fever continued a cough started. That Saturday he was diagnosed with bronchitis. That lasted about a week. We were ready to move into the month of March. Except the 1st week in March I ended up with bronchitis. I felt awful!

He a check up in Omaha the last part of March. He kept saying no Omaha, I don’t like Omaha. The appt went great. In fact so good that they decided to leave him off the iron and do iron studies in a couple of months. They also decided to take him off another med he has been on shortly after transplant. Labs will tell us if needs go back on that one. If he would have some good labs they would like to go to every other month. Something he has never gotten to do. Latest labs weren’t bad but his platelets are back down to 81. We will see where numbers are next time.

We had a great Easter. We spent some time in Columbus. We went saw great grandma Buettner and great grandpa and grandma Sackett. It was nice visiting with them.

Trey is loving the warm weather. His currently still likes Batman. When I tell him him he is going to get hurt he says I am Batman.

We attened the Nebraska Spring game and we all enjoyed it. With three kids half time was enough.

We are all looking forward to camping. Maybe this weekend depending on the wind.

I feel like we lost the month of February. It went by quickly but not without a few hospital stays and several doctor visits. Trey’s site was down for awhile so we were unable to do updates.

The first week in February Trey had been running a high fever. On Sunday night his fever was getting high and Omaha wanted a chest xray. Off to the ER we went. The xrays were clear. He went to the DR on Monday and Tuesday he had labs. With the fever his liver enzymes remained good. On Wednesday his fever remained high even with Tylenol and you could tell he just didn’t feel good. Several times over the past few days he complained of feet pain pain in his legs. When it was time to get the girls I looked over at him and he said mommy I can’t walk, and he was shaking, teeth chattering, a really different cry and his skin was turning purple. I didn’t know what was happening and I was scared. I was always taught don’t make him too warm with a fever. I called his DR and they said come over immediately. The doctor said keep him wrapped in the blanket and hold him and warm him up. They did the usual vitals and made a call to Omaha. After a total of around 35 minutes his body finally warmed up and stopped shaking. The doctor thought it was related to his fever and he thought Trey should be hospitalized. We got to Omaha around 6:00 pm. Labs were done and another chest xray. Xray showed some bronchial junk in his lungs. That night he had 3 more episodes of the shaking, teeth chattering and turning purple but they only lasted 5 minutes. This time I knew to hug him and warm him with a blanket. The Resident was concerned it was a type of seizure but the test they tested for was negative. He continued to run a fever Thursday and Friday. We pushed fluids and he didn’t feel good. Nothing was showing up on labs and his liver numbers continued to be normal. On Friday morning the nurse thought he was getting dehydrated and he started getting purple again. She thought he should have an IV. It actually went in smoothly thanks from the help of Child Life distracting him. Jeff and the girls came up Friday night. Jeff decided to give me a break and send me back to Lincoln with Emma and Anna. (some break) On Saturday morning he tested positive for C-diff. The big question is did he go in the hospital with this or did he leave with it?? Fevers were less frequent, he was feeling better and the doctors discharged him late Saturday afternoon. He went home with a new medicine for 14 days. Their final diagnosis is a viral infection and that was the way his body responded to the infection.

We are wishing everyone a Happy New Year!

We hope you had a wonderful Christmas and that the new year is off to a great start for you!

We had a nice Christmas. The kids visited Santa at the mall and asked him if could stop by our house early since we would be gone on Christmas. On Monday, the 22, there was a knock on the door but the only thing outside the door was 3 large red and green bags and 1 envelope. Santa had left presents and a letter telling us each what we could work harder on and what we had done good throughout the year. Everyone had a great night.

to be continued…..

My baby, I mean big boy, turned 3 on the 12th. Just seems like yesterday when my water broke, 2 days earlier then the planned c-section date. I called Jeff and off to the hospital we went, forgetting our camcorder, and to find out they had no rooms available for the surgery. We frantically called Kelli asking her to pick up Anna from preschool and Christa to pick up Emma from Kindergarten. We were sent to the first floor operating room where the nurse informed me if we seem like we don’t know what we are doing it is becasue we don’t usually have babies down here. Everything went great and that Christmas was a blur. I remember on Christmas Eve being worried and sharing my concerns with family that there was something more wrong with Trey and that I felt by 12 days later he should be over his newborn jaundiced. And here we are 3 years later.

When looking back at all the outcomes that could’ve been we feel truly blessed.

Trey had labs almost a month ago. Most numbers were good, the numbers most out of range being his white blood count and those darn platlets which has dropped to 80. I know it is not a huge concern yet but I can’t help but wonder is there something else going on causing them to drop that everyone is missing. I also know that his enlarged spleen can be eating up his platlets and the doctors once mentioned removing the spleen. I try not to worry. Overall I recently have felt a sense of relief and it looks as if we are moving on from the hospital stays and sickness. But in the back of our minds we know that there is always a chance of rejection, and kidney failure and other side effects that can come from the medicine. It was UNMC that told us our goal is for Trey to live a normal life and we will continue to pray that God will let that happen.

We celebrated Thanksgiving with the Gulzows in Grand Island and had a great day. The next day mom did a little shopping and we spent the day with some of the Buettners eating Jeff’s delicious smoked ribs and watching the football game.

The following weekend it was grandpa Buettners families turn to host the Buettner Christmas for his 10 brother and sisters and their families. Trey and the girls enjoyed running wild with the other children. Aiden was kind enough to share his gift of big feet slippers with Trey and he had so much fun with them. We shared with everyone a calendar of the Buettners, with pictures and birthdays marked for 170 relatives. It was a lot of fun.

While in Columbus we celebrated Trey and Christas birthdays. Trey liked his step stool and race track he received.

And the following weekend we celebrated with grandpa and grandma Gulzow, great grandpa, Shane, Rob, Kelli, Mya and Carter. We had a feast and enjoyed Trey’s wish of a Scooby cake and Trey loved his gifts of Hulk Hands, basketball hoop, Geo airplane, and viewmaster.

Trey is asking Santa for a tool bench and another flashlight. Anna’s top wish is horse riding lessons, pixos, bendaroos and more. Emma would like a laptop computer and Little House on the Prairie movies. We might go to the mall tomorrow to visit Santa.

He can’t wait to get out and play in all the snow. We keep telling him it has to warm up some first, but every chance he can get he will run over into the snow and stomp through it.

We’ve been busy, we enjoyed Emma’s Christmas concert and attended Anna’s concert also. Anna was chosen to be one of 6 stars having ligns to say in her Christmas concert, which made her happy. She did a great job and we were very proud of her. We also attended the Christmas Program at Capital City Christian Church which was fantastic.

Trey has improved a lot with his speech. The teacher is pleased with his progress and it appears soon he will be caught up.

If we don’t update before we hope everyone has a blessed Christmas and New Year.

Another month has gone by and quickly! Trey has been very healthy. He had labs last week and he had some of the best liver enzymes ever. Still low platelets but they never went any lower which is a relief. He had his flu shot and he did run a temp the next day. Otherwise he is healthy and growing!

We had been enjoying the warm weather, that is until today. Trey enjoys being outside and we have had a lot of fun playing. Trey also can’t wait to go hunting with dad. The first day Jeff went out and Trey learned he couldn’t go he cried and wouldn’t look at Jeff when he got home. Instead he went and got on his camo pj’s, brought out his bow and 3×4 Moose and he was shooting it. Too cute!

He misses the girls when they are in school but we are getting to do lots of fun things together. He is learning to play computer games by himself and is doing a great job and he is now playing the vsmile. His talking has gotten better and he is saying more 2-3 word sentences at a time. The speech pathologist is pleased. She thinks it is because he is finally feeling good. His favorite shows right now are Scooby and Calliou. He likes to swim and play in the tub.

Anna had her All Saints Day parade and she dressed as St. Anna the Prophetess. She did a fantastic job saying her lines in church. Emma got to be a part of the living rosary and she was excited about that. The girls received their report cards yesterday and we are proud of them and relieved we don’t pay them for good grades. (it would be expensive)

We gathered with Jackie’s family in Yankton SD to celebrate her mom and dads 40th anniversary. We had a great weekend. Congrats to grandpa and grandma!

We are enjoying not having any hospital stays. All the paperwork and the 2 months it takes to get caught up were headaches. I pray this continued health continues.

We have been praying all summer for a beautiful little girl named Emerson who had her transplant in June at UNMC. In fact she had several organs transplanted and was doing really good until recently things turned for the worse and she was positive for gram negative and gram positive rods and sepsis set in damaging organs along with other issues. (Trey had both the grams but not at the same time and fortunately no serious complications) Things have been rough for her. We ask that you please remember Emerson and her mother in your prayers. You can read her mothers updates at www.cotaforemersonw.com Also please keep Bethany in your prayers. She is having a difficult time after the loss of her son Gavin. I just can’t imagine and try to remember this every time I get impatient or upset at Trey and the girls.

Trey loved trick or treating. He was Spiderman and the girls were wicked witches. He loved running up to the houses saying trick or treat and thank you.

We hope the cold weather is not here to stay.

On Sept 5 Trey had an endoscopy and colonscoy in Omaha at UNMC. They wanted to do this to rule out “things” because of all of his diarrhea. He did really good for not having anything to eat or drink for 8 hours prior to the tests. It never gets any easier each time you see your child being put to sleep, handing them over and knowing that he is going to be intubated. The good news was that the initial pictures showed nothing alarming and just yesterday we got word that the biopsies showed nothing alarming either. As we were leaving the testing area life flight saw Trey and asked if he wanted to go to the roof and see the helicopter. Trey got to get inside the helicopter and explore a little. He thought that it was really cool. For mom it brought back memories of being flown in from Lincoln.

On another note, we have some sad news. Mildred Gulzow, Jeff’s grandma and Trey’s great grandma passed away last Wednesday, September 17 at the age of 86. She was such a wonderful woman who cared so much for all of us. There was a beautiful service on Monday. It was evident that grandma cared and loved us….the number of people who stopped us and asked about Trey and the girls and asked how we were all doing. We thank you all for your support for grandma and to our family these past 2 1/2 years. It is because of your prayers and support that has gotten us to where we are and that Trey is still here with us today. We love your grandma Mildred Gulzow!

Throughtout the weeked I kept praying and checking on Gavin who is from Liver Families (a support website). He had been waiting for a liver since April and his body was failing him. With sadness we learned he passed away Monday. He was only 11 months old. He comes from a beutiful family that has two other children. Please keep them in your prayers during this difficult time. When we look back to all the what ifs we feel so blessed that Trey is here with us today and we hug him and our girls even more. If not already please consider being an organ donor.

The girls love school and their teachers. Anna is having a late roller skating 6th birthday party with her classmates this weekend. (her birthday is in the summer) She is all excited and can’t wait.

Last Friday on September 19th, Jeff and I celebrated our 10 year anniversary. It is hard to believe how fast the years go by. We had to cancel our plans last weekend but we may get away without kids for a night this weekend.

We hope everyone is staying healthy and enjoying the cooler days.

The end of July we attended the transplant reunion in Omaha. We all had a great time and channel 7 interviewed us and ran a story that night.

Trey continues to stay healthy. Omaha has decided it is time to look further into his stool issues. Last week they tested the fats in his stool and tested his blood for celiac disease and yesterday both came back negative. We are waiting for word from Omaha on when and what they want to scope. His teeth are not in good shape. The dentist would like to put him out and perform and hour and half of work on them. The medicines he takes have not been kind to his teeth.

He continues to improve on his speech and two weeks ago he very clearly started saying Emma and Anna along with more new words.

The girls had their 1st full day of school yesterday and Trey has been bored and causing trouble. He likes to see how far he can push me and what he can get away with. The girls really like their teachers.

We spent some time at the state fair last weekend and one of the highlights was we all got see a baby goat being born. We later learned the mom had 4 babies. We also got to see and hold baby pigs that were only 13 hours old, baby calves only 8 hours old and hold baby chicks. Grandma and grandpa Gulzow went with us one day.

Anna celebrated her 6th birthday on August 1st. She had a large dolphin cake that we brought to Spalding. We spent a few days in Spalding with the Rott family who had a large family gathering and we celebrated Francis, from Maryland, 70th birthday and mom got to meet some cousins older than her whom she has never met before. We went canoeing and the girls had a blast and we also attended the Spalding fair while we were there.

The girls got to attend the B-D picnic with grandma Buettner on another weekend and had a great time. Anna climbed a rock wall and when she almost reached the top she lost her footing and ended up hanging upside down. Trey, mom and dad went and saw great grandma Buettner in Cedar and the next day we went to Zach’s baptism. We stopped by great grandma and grandpa Sacketts and we were disappointed they weren’t home.

We are planning a couple more camping trips before we park the camper for the winter.

Wow, the days sure do fly past us qucikly. On July 7th Trey celebrated his 2nd year anniversary of his second chance at life. Again we look back and thank Trey’s aunt Christa who donated part of her liver, the doctors, and all our families and friends for your support during Trey’s 2 1/2 years of life. We couldn’t have made it this far without all of you!

We have almost made it through the month of July with no hospital stays! Trey did make one trip last month to Omaha to go over his diet, diarrhea, burning bottom and low iron counts. They decided they wanted Trey to cut back to only 3 glasses of milk a day and see if this would help the issues and help him to eat more foods. With all of his nasty tasting iron he takes his hemoglobin number has remained high but when they did a ferritin study last month all of his numbers were very low. Last month labs showed his liver numbers the best they’ve been since right after transplant. We hope this continues!

He is now officially moved to monthly labs unless something of concern shows up inbetween. His last blood draw he just sat there without a fight or tear. He likes to shoot in his own bicarb in his mouth from the syringe and he can now dissolve the one pill under his tongue. But he still runs to hide and covers his mouth when it is time for the iron. I don’t blame him!

His speech has greatly improved! I think with feeling better and the girls home this summer it has helped him. His favorite words are why, where, oh yeah, owie, mommy, addy for daddy, blue, pink, alliou for Calliou and several more words. He leaves off the first sounds of most words but they tell us that will come along. Everyday he has been learning and trying to say new words.

He continues to show us he is all boy! He loves to jump on the girls, kick and throw balls of all types, help daddy fix things and be rough and tough. He is getting more into daddy and wanting to spend more time with him and doing what he is doing. Yeah!

We’ve been camping and just last week got back from our 5 day annual trip with the Buettners to Calamus. We had a great time and the weather stayed perfect for us. Trey and the girls loved the white sand beaches, the hills and the clear water. We just needed a couple more days.